There is this incredible thing that happens when you reclaim your story. When you find your voice. When you share your truth.

When you take a step toward breaking the chains of your past.

It’s called freedom. It comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. But it’s even more beautiful and miraculous when it’s paired with validation.

People often ask why survivors of abuse take “so long” to speak up.

It’s imperative to understand that the victims, the survivors, not only have their innocence stolen. They have their voice taken as well.

Victims are often instructed, even threatened, not to say a word. It’s magnified for children because they’re just doing what they’re told.

And maybe there’s an underlying fear that no one will believe them. That if they find a trusted adult, that they’ll take the side of the offender. That the child will be blamed. And they will be alone in their pain.

And maybe they begin to believe the lie that it’s better to keep quiet, to hold that secret tight and bury it as deep as they can.

I can’t think of anything more damaging than enduring abuse and then having no one to tell about it.

We need to learn to be better listeners. Listening to understand and validate, not simply to respond with advice or opinion. We need to create spaces where safety is valued and connection is sacred. Where secrets are exposed and accountability is demanded.

We need to amplify the voices of those who have been silenced. We need to come alongside victims and walk with them. Encourage them (read: make them bold and courageous again). Help them carry their burden that they were never meant to carry. Advocate for justice and for the redemption of what was stolen.

Survivors of abuse and trauma need to be believed. Heard. Protected.

Period.